Cremation: Another Option For Transition

Funeral UrnAs a funeral director, you may have seen an increase over the last few years in requests for cremation. This may be a puzzling trend to some directors, while others may see it as inadequate to the funeral process. The latter is the point of focus here. Done creatively, cremation can be a fulfilling experience for a family’s bereavement.

Witness. One major aspect of the funeral ceremony is that the family is there to participate in the entire process from beginning to end. Often, families may feel left out orĀ  guilty that they have let their loved-one down when not present during the cremation process. Not all families will want to be there during its initiation, but by taking the time to offer this option to your clients, they will likely appreciate your thoughtfulness. Tactfully explain to them that their presence during the cremation process could be a means for healing their grief. If asked, by going over details of what they can expect to experience, your clients may feel more confident with their decision to cremate.

Ceremonial rites. Many people may have the misunderstanding that cremation involves no accompanying rituals. This does not have to be the case. As a funeral director, it is your job to help a grieving family explore their options, explain the necessity to mourn, and that rituals can often be a way to express grief and begin to heal. In our modern society, many people have lost touch with how to deal in a healthy way with profound loss. You have the opportunity to present someone with an appropriate option, one they may not have known that they had.

Best option. Occasionally, you may encounter a situation when the deceased, for a variety of reasons, cannot be displayed openly. Their condition may necessitate cremation, or at the least, require you to encourage the family to consider other options. This situation can be delicate to discuss. Maintaining a sense of empathy and professionalism can be tremendous in dealing with such situations. Explaining to family members that they can still have a meaningful ceremony for their loved one, and this ceremony may often provide great comfort to their loss. Building upon the element of ceremony can be of some compensation to those who will never get a last glimpse of a loved-one to say goodbye.

Ashes to ashes. Once the cremation process is complete, what options do family members have? This is an important step that some people may not know how to approach. Here’s where you come in, once again, to present the answer before the question is even asked. There can be many choices that help reflect the families beliefs and wishes, such as scattering ceremonies. You can help advise the family to select an appropriate location that was meaningful or empowering to their loved-one or, or that is sanctioned by their place of worship. When the family chooses to scatter their family members’ ashes, scattering urns are available for this specific purpose.

Vessels for the journey. Sometimes, the final resting place for our loved-ones is not in the usual large structure that most people expect. But, this does not mean that their vessel is any less meaningful. In fact, it can often be quite elaborate and personalized. Pointing this out to grieving family members can help ease their disappointment if they hoped for a casket funeral, ease any lingering guilt for choosing another option. In fact, some families may not be able to afford any other choice than cremation. As a funeral director, it is important to be sensitive to this possibility, to refrain from judging your clients decision or ability to pay. Visit In The Light Urns for a great selection of cremation urns, specialty urns and cremation keepsakes.

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