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Education Requirements and Licensing for the Funeral Industry

Sunday, February 21st, 2010

Columbia Funeral Home in Seattle, Washington.

Columbia Funeral Home in Seattle, Washington.

If you are seeking a career opportunity in the funeral industry, you have numerous sources available to you to learn about educational requirements and licensing. The following information includes a summary of basic educational requirements for most states. You always can contact the funeral service college or check this list of State Funeral Directors Associations at the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) to learn more about specific education guidelines for each state.

With career opportunities in over 20,000 funeral homes across the U.S., you may find a need for a well-trained funeral service professional. Demand is greater for graduates who have prepared themselves for management positions by selecting business and communications courses as part of their college program.

Generally, you will need:

  • A high school diploma or equivalent (GED).
  • An Associate Degree, or its credit hour equivalent, a portion of which is in funeral service education, from an accredited educational institution.
  • Passing a state and/or national board licensing examination.
  • An internship or apprenticeship ranging from one to three years.
  • Many states require that funeral directors meet continuing education requirements to maintain licensure. (See State Boards and Licensing Requirements Information)

The funeral service curriculum, approved by the American Board of Funeral Service Education (ABFSE), the United States’ funeral service accrediting agency, includes courses in:

  • Public Health and Technical Area — microbiology, anatomy, chemistry, pathology, restorative art and embalming.
  • Business Management Area — business management, funeral arranging, funeral merchandising, funeral home management, computer applications, Federal Trade Commission Funeral Rule and accounting.
  • Social Science Area — sociology of funeral service, psychology of grief, funeral directing, history of funeral service, communication skills and counseling.
  • Legal, Regulatory and Ethical Area — business law, funeral service law and regulation and professional ethics.

To learn more about current jobs available in the funeral industry, visit the newest jobs available list at the NFDA’s Funeral Career Center.

A Viking Funeral? Doubtful.

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010
The ship burial of the Viking ruler Igor the Old in Kievan Rus by Heinrich Semiradzki (1845-1902).

The ship burial of the Viking ruler Igor the Old in Kievan Rus by Heinrich Semiradzki (1845-1902).

Jeff Conaway wants a Viking funeral, but — if you read the story linked here closely — you may learn that Conaway has some personal issues and he may not be touching reality on a regular basis. Funeral directors and the Environmental Protection Agency tremble at the thought of a Viking funeral, and the possibility that a funeral with a flaming boat is possible is highly unlikely. Why? Simply because of logistics and the law.

Most people, when they envision a Viking funeral, think of a hero lying in a boat, pushed out to sea, and the boat set aflame by a well-marked arrow. Within minutes, the boat and the body are burned to ash, symbolizing the Phoenix, where the hero’s spirit rises above the flames to live eternally.

First, this vision is scientifically impossible, as it would take more than a few minutes and a flame hotter than that caused by a quickly burning boat to disintegrate a body. Even in a normal crematory process, temperatures of 760° to 1150°C (1400° to 2100°F) are required for one to two hours to cremate a ‘normal’ body. Larger bodies take longer. the most damage that a few minutes on a burning boat could do is burn the flesh away, revealing bones and muscle tissue.

Further, it has become more difficult and expensive to conduct an ocean funeral — even one that does not include a flaming boat. Most requirements for a full-body burial at sea (not scattering ashes) include a shroud or biodegradable coffin, no embalming — which means the body must be buried at sea as soon as possible — and a toe tag in case the body accidentally washes up on shore one day in the near future. If a biodegradable coffin is used, it usually must be drilled with holes to allow water in and must be weighted with about four-hundredweight of iron chain or concrete to try to keep the coffin from floating in to shore somewhere.

Additionally, some religions do not favor a burial at sea, including the Catholic Church. Burial at sea in a casket or in an urn is approved for cases where the deceased expired in the sea, however, and the committal prayer number 406§4 is used in this case:

Lord God,
by the power of your Word
you stilled the chaos of the primeval seas,
you made the raging waters of the Flood subside,
and calmed the storm on the sea of Galilee.
As we commit the body (earthly remains)

of our brother (sister) N. to the deep,
grant him/her peace and tranquility
until that day when he/she

and all who believe in you
will be raised to the glory of new life
promised in the waters of baptism.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.
R. Amen.

Other religions might feel somewhat lenient about burials at sea, with consultation before the fact. The Anglican Communion, however, has detailed procedures for burial at sea, because many Anglican and other religious chaplains of the Royal Navy buried cremated remains of ex-Naval personnel at sea. The ship has to be stopped, and the body has to be sewn in sailcloth, together with two cannon balls for weight. Many Lutheran naval veterans and seamen also prefer to be buried at sea. In those cases either the casket or urn is set to sea, or ashes scattered. The procedure is similar as that with Anglican. Some parishes have specific consecrated sea areas, where ashes can be sprinkled.

California, with its long coastline, is the only U.S. State that does not permit full body burials at sea. The Environmental Protection Agency does carry regulations for full body burials at sea in the United States. Some of those requirements include a distance of at least three nautical miles from land and in water at least 600 feet deep. Certain areas, including east central Florida, the Dry Tortugas, Florida and west of Pensacola, Florida to the Mississippi River Delta, require water at least 1800 feet deep. Refer to the Code of Federal Regulations at 40 CFR 229.1 (PDF) for further details. Additionally, “all necessary measures shall be taken to ensure that the remains sink to the bottom rapidly and permanently.”

If you plan to dispose of a body illegally, read the information at Wikipedia about illegal disposal of bodies in water. According to that article, disposal in large lakes or oceans is more likely to hide the body, but a decomposing body can develop a strong positive buoyancy due to the decomposing gases being trapped underneath the skin. This may bring the body up to the surface, or at least increase the movement across the ocean floor due to wave actions. Many bodies have washed up at the shore (think about the caskets washed up on the Mississippi shore from New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina). Bodies have also been discovered in the nets or lines of fishermen, and occasionally, bodies are also discovered by divers.

Additionally, very cold water with little oxygen may preserve bodies, considering Margaret Hogg, the Wasdale Lady in the Lake in Wast Water lake in the Wasdale area. She was found after 8 years, with her body preserved like wax.

Viking funeral? Maybe symbolically, but the reality of sending a full body out to sea and setting it on fire to dispose of the body is somewhat mythical and impractical, most likely illegal and a tad bit egoistic.

Georgia Funeral Home Goes Green

Thursday, January 21st, 2010

White Columns Web site

Soenso Energy president, Roger K. Cone, announced late last year that work is complete on the installation of a solar photovoltaic (PV) system on the roof of White Columns Funeral Chapel in Mableton, Georgia. This is believed to be the first installation of clean, renewable solar power on a funeral home in the state of Georgia. The 5.8kW system is designed to offset approximately 40 percent of the annual electricity energy needs of this facility in south Cobb County.

White Columns Funeral Chapel’s new solar PV array consists of twenty-eight 210W Schuco-USA solar PV modules mounted on a south-facing portion of the funeral home’s roof. The PV modules generate DC power that is fed into a 5000W SMA-America inverter. The inverter converts the DC power to AC power. The AC power is fed into the electrical panel of the building where it is dispersed wherever needed throughout the facility. The building uses this solar-generated electricity first and, if needed, seamlessly and automatically pulls from the utility grid to keep the facility fully powered.

Currently there are generous Federal and Georgia financial incentives in place for commercial installations of renewable energy. For commercial solar PV installations the Federal incentive is a 30 percent income tax credit or grant, and the Georgia incentive is a 35 percent income tax credit or rebate. There are published maximum limits on Georgia renewable energy incentives.

Owned and operated by the Gene Davis family which has been serving Mableton, Austell, Powder Springs, and Lithia Springs, Georgia, since 1964. On the Web: http://www.whitecolumnsfuneralchapel.com, Phone: 770-948-0113, Location: 1115 Clay Road, Mableton, GA 30126.

Senseo Energy is located in Marietta, Georgia, near Atlanta. they are a leading supplier and installer of commercial and residential renewable energy products – solar thermal hot water systems, solar photovoltaic (PV) for generating electricity and small wind turbines for generating electricity. These renewable energy technologies qualify for Federal and Georgia clean energy income tax credits. On the Web: http://www.soenso.com.

New England Burials at Sea LLC Expands Fleet & Territory

Monday, January 18th, 2010

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New England Burials At Sea (NEBAS), now the northeast’s largest burial at sea provider, is expanding its charter fleet by now offering larger vessels that can accommodate up to 400 people with affordable, individualized and personal memorial ash scattering and full body sea burials from Boothbay Maine to the Mid Atlantic area (the Carolinas) and to the west coast of the USA through approved affiliates. They are recommended and fully insured.

NBAS now offers attended or unattended year round memorial cruises for traditional ash scatterings or complete full body casket free eco friendly sea burials, both per strict U.S. Coast Guard and EPA regulations, presided over by a USCG licensed vessel captain (and a licensed funeral director for full body committals). Serving all faiths with personalized services.

NEBAS recently introduced the industry’s first patent pending Atlantic Sea Burial Shroud® for full body sea burials. The soft-sided shroud is hand stitched in New England and designed as an ocean friendly burial alternative that is more cost effective than the price of a full wood or metal casket. It is suitable for pre voyage funeral home viewings and comes in a variety of earth tone colors with custom monogramming available. The shroud is made from natural materials and is designed to degrade in a few short months offering a true “eco-friendly” sea burial.

Captain Brad White recently announced, “Our business has grown quickly as we are now recommended by many funeral homes and crematories for cost efficient sea burial services in a professional and dignified manner within 48 hours of families request.”

Available options are ocean friendly flowers arrangements including hand woven sea wreaths & urns. Digital and video photography of the service is available for online photo shows and full documentation of the event. White recently announced that live event simulcasting can also be broadcast worldwide to friends and family members that may not be able to attend but who can easily log online to witness in real time. (Available in 2010). Special requests are also welcome.

For ash scatterings, the vessel voyages three nautical miles to sea and scatters ashes with a customized family sea tribute service. At the close of the service, loved ones receive a commemorative distinguished parchment burial certificate indicating the date, time, depth and exact latitude and longitude of the ceremony so that area can be visited at a later date. Also included is an aerial ocean photo view of the location and a Sea Bottle™ filled with the specific area’s water, sand and indigenous sea shells that are wax capped sealed and hanked with sailor’s marlin wrap as a keepsake of the event.

Typical vessels range in size from 30′ to 65′ feet for up to 50 passengers and up to 100′-125′ for up to 400 passengers. Departure Port locations vary from Maine to South Carolina. All vessels are equipped with state-of-the-art electronics and all required safety gear.

Burial at Sea Services offered

  • Private ash scattering cruises with family
  • Unattended ash scattering –Captain’s service
  • Full Body Ocean Burials –With family
  • Ceremonies for Pets’ Ashes
  • Memorial Cruises to the same coordinates on future anniversaries also available

Sea tribute services may be attended or unattended and can also be viewed from the shore. Prices vary by market but typically start at $495 (unattended) to $895.00 (attended by party of six) to up to $2,500 for larger families up to 35. Voyages for 35- 400 are very reasonable. Ash scattering services are also available for beloved pets for $95 (unattended) to $395 (attended).

The company is building a network of approved and qualified sea burial certified captains ™ on the east coast of the USA with affiliates recently established on the West Coast.

Sea Burials are affordable dignified alternatives to traditional burials. NEBAS ensures a loved one a final resting place at sea, while relieving family of significant financial burdens in their time of distress. Requests can usually be accommodated within 24-48 hours of the first call, depending upon location, weather conditions and season.

Learn more about New England Burials at Sea from their Web site.

Mozart’s Masonic Funeral Music, K.477

Sunday, December 27th, 2009

Striving for a synthesis between the sacred and theatrical, this piece by Johannes Chrysostomus Wolfgangus Theophilus Mozart brings both class and confusion into the twenty-first century’s choices for traditional funeral music. Mozart wrote this C-minor Mass to celebrate his marriage to Constanze Webber. Although only half-finished, this Mass premiered in Salzburg in 1783, when Wolfgang and Constanze visited his family in that city. Constanze sang a solo part in that Mass, which contains some difficult vocals.

Like Mozart’s Requiem, the explanation as to why either piece was not finished is unknown. Alfred Einstein called it ‘a magnificent torso,’ and several musicians have tried to complete it over the decades. Louis Langrée, who conducted one recording, found those additions unsatisfactory and created his own version. Where Mozart omitted or sketched vocal and instrumental parts, Langrée reconstructed them, but unlike some editors did not substitute music from other pieces for the missing sections. Setrak Setrakian conducts the version you can hear in the video posted above.

Edith Eisler wrote, “Apart from some clumsy transitions and muddy counterpoint, his emendations work well. The Mass’s grand, solemn first chorus in somber C minor (Mozart’s favorite key for drama and tragedy) seems a strange opening for a hymn of thanksgiving, but the mood soon changes to serene affirmation with a very operatic soprano aria in E-flat major, and indeed C minor never returns.”

Also called the “Masonic Funeral Music,” this piece combines elements of march and chorale, beginning in tragic C minor, but ending on a radiant C-major chord.

Over his lifetime, Mozart composed over 600 works, many acknowledged as pinnacles of symphonic, concertante, chamber, piano, operatic, and choral music. He is among the most enduringly popular of classical composers.

Funeral Flowers: Correct etiquette 70 Years Ago Still Stands Today

Thursday, December 10th, 2009
The casket spray usually is purchased by immediate family.

The casket spray usually is purchased by immediate family.

About seventy years ago, your attendance at a funeral depended upon your social standing, your closeness to the deceased and the deceased’s rank in society. Grief, surely, had something to do with funerals, but Emily Post allots few paragraphs to that emotion and a multitude of paragraphs that attend to behaviors in her 1937 book, Etiquette.

Flowers deserved more words than emotions in her chapter on funeral etiquette. Flowers were sent only if warranted and — at the time — mostly to the deceased’s home or to the home of a close relative. Flowers took first place in the actions that any individual should take when notified of a funeral. At that time, notification usually came by card delivered through postal service or by hand. Upon receiving that card…

“…you should go at once to the house, write “With sympathy” on your card and leave it at the door. Or, you write a letter to the family. In either case you send flowers, addressed either to the funeral of _____ (name of the deceased) or to the nearest relative. The latter method is preferable, if the relative is a friend. But the former method is followed if the deceased alone was known to you.

“On the card accompanying the flowers, and addressed to one of the family, you write “With sympathy,” “With deepest sympathy,” or “With heartfelt sympathy,” or “With love and sympathy.” When flowers are addressed to the funeral of the deceased, no message is included. If there is a notice in the papers requesting that no flowers be sent, you disregard it only if you are a very intimate friend.

“A very natural impulse of kindness is to send a few flowers with a note either immediately or a few days or weeks after the funeral to any bereaved person who is particularly in through thoughts. A few flowers sent from time to time — possibly for long afterward — are especially comforting in their assurance of continued sympathy.”

Today, flowers may be too expensive to continuously send them to a bereaved person. The habit of sending more than one funeral arrangement may seem out of place today. Additionally, to continue to send flowers on a regular basis after a funeral may send a different message altogether over time.

On another note, a bereaved family today sincerely means what they say when they ask for no flowers just as they did seventy years ago. Not much has changed in this regard, as usually the closer family members may go together to buy a casket blanket or a number of pieces to accompany the funeral when that family asks for no flowers. But you — as a friend or distant relative — need to follow their advice and avoid sending flowers. You can, however, send a small plant or flowers to the home a few weeks after the funeral just to let the bereaved know that you continue to think about them.

In other words, one funeral arrangement per funeral is all you need to think about, and only if you are a family member or a close friend. Even then, with today’s economic environment, many bereaved families will understand a lack of flowers from you, and may not expect it in any case. Your attendance at the funeral, if warranted, probably would make that family happier than a few roses.

Funeral Homes and More Deathcare on Twitter

Monday, December 7th, 2009
Oh for Twitter in 1900!

Oh for Twitter in 1900!

A few months ago we posted a list of Twitter users who focused on deathcare; but, we did not post funeral homes, as only two were listed at the time. As you can see from the list shown below, the funeral home business is catching on to Twitter! Many of these businesses have discovered that Twitter provides a great format to post links to obituaries.

The links lead to the Twitter page for each user. You need a Twitter account to respond to these users, but you do not need an account to read their “Tweets,” or their posts on their Twitter pages. The list is categorized and each link is listed alphabetically to show that we do not favor one resource over another.

Before you get in a huff about not being mentioned in the list below, we posted links to Twitter users who have posted within the past month and who have more than one Tweet on their page…if that description doesn’t fit you, then you weren’t listed.

Funeral Homes

  • Amos Family Funeral: Located in Shawnee, Kansas, this is a family-owned funeral home with on-site crematory. This funeral home also provides ShawneeObits (which we think is a great idea!).
  • Amos Pet Crematory: We had to make this a separate listing, although it seems that Amos is famous for taking care of lifeless bodies (see above).
  • Bannan Funeral Home: You can get all your obits from Alpena, Michigan through this Twitter site.
  • Barranco Funeral: This is a family-owned funeral home located in Severna Park, Maryland.
  • Baue Funeral Home: The folks in St. Charles, Missouri, can count on this funeral home to offer plenty of local news and photos.
  • Corey Gaffney: Mr. Gaffney is the general manager and funeral director at Gaffney Funeral Home in Tacoma, Washington.
  • Fisher Funeral Home: This funeral home, located in Logansport, Indiana, publishes links to obits as well as some great observations.
  • Funeral Queen: Muneerah Warner is the funeral director of Warner Funeral Home and CEO of Eternal Enterprises, Inc.
  • Gaffney Funeral Home: Located in Tacoma, Washington, this site focuses on seminars and holiday observations.
  • Hans Funeral Home: This funeral home also publishes obits. They are located in Albany, New York.
  • Herr Funeral Homes (Sunset Hill): This funeral home puts the “fun in funeral home!” They are located in St. Louis metro east.
  • John W. Evans: This guy goes by the Twitter ID, “Gottagosometime.” He’s currently the owner of Evans Funeral Home in Norwalk, Ohio and Secretary and Treasurer-elect for the Ohio Funeral Directors Association.
  • Miller Funeral Home: Located in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, this funeral home provides some interesting facts and quotes.
  • NewportFunerals: Brown Funeral Home has been serving families in Newport and Cocke County, Tennessee for over 78 years. Now, they’re on Twitter!
  • Roberts Funeral Home: This funeral home is located in Forest Lake, Minnesota, and they post obits.
  • Ryan Funeral Home: This funeral home is located in De Pere, Wisconsin.
  • Searcy Funeral Home: Located in Enterprise, Alabama, this funeral home offers local obituaries.
  • Sunset Funeral Home: Sunset Funeral Homes Memorial Park and Cremation Center is located in Danville, Illinois.
  • The Pet Funeral Home: This Canadian pet funeral home provides readers with pets as well as with pet funerals.

Other Deathcare Twitterers

  • Cross-Lanes Floral: Although not necessarily focused on funerals, it’s nice to see a florist become involved with Twitter. This florist is located in West Virginia.
  • Funeral Home Jobs: If you want to work in a funeral home, you might want to follow this Twitter user.
  • MrFrost71: A Kentucky-based funeral home employee Tweets away (he also Twitters about other things).
  • Sacred Crossings: This Twitter user represents the Los Angeles-based business that helps users practice at-home funerals.

Funeral Music Composed for a King

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Gustav II Adolf, born in 1593, was founder of the Swedish Empire at the beginning of what is widely regarded as the Golden Age of Sweden. But, despite the luminous quality of the era’s name, Gustav faced an era characterized by nearly endless warfare. He led his armies as King of Sweden from 1611 at seventeen until his death in battle while leading a charge during 1632 in the Thirty Years’ War.

While Gustav was fighting his wars, Andreas Duben was admitted to Leipzig University, where he studied music from 1614 to 1620. In that year, Duben became second organist of the new Swedish court orchestra at Stockholm, engaged from Germany for Gustav II Adolf’s wedding.

Gustav was taken with the composer, and Duben soon reached a prominent position among court musicians. He was appointed conductor in 1640, and alongside his court service he became organist at two Stockholm churches. Pugna triumphalis, one of two choral compositions that survive, is the source for the music in the video above. Duben wrote this piece for Gustav II Adolf’s funeral in 1634 (Gustav was killed in 1632, but was not buried for eighteen months).

According to the post at YouTube for this video, the closing line to Pugna triumphalis, “…in illa die justus judex,” is magnificent. “The composition was printed in Stockholm and distributed to other parts of the kingdom for performances where practically possible. The music moves at a steady pace, reminiscent of muffled church bells, and within this framework allows great flexibility for the declamation and significance of the words, not least the opening cross-rhythms of “bonum certamen certavi” (”I have fought the good fight”).”

Bonum certamen certavi
cursum cunsummavi,
fidem servavi;
In reliquo reposita
est mihi corona justitiae,
quam reddet mihi Dominus
in illa die justus judex.

I have fought a good fight,
I have finished my course,
I have kept the faith:
Henceforth there is laid up for me
a crown of righteousness
which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give
me at that day.

According to Wikipedia, Gustavus Adolphus Day is celebrated in Sweden each year on 6 November. On this day only, a special pastry with a chocolate or marzipan medallion of the king, is sold. The day is also an official flag day in the Swedish calendar. In Finland, the day is celebrated as svenska dagen or ruotsalaisuuden paiva, “Swedishness Day,” and is a customary flag day. In Estonia, the day is known as Gustav Adolfi paev. In all three countries, 6 November is the name day for Gustav Adolf, one of the few exceptional name days in the year.

Emily Post Eliminates a Funeral Tradition

Friday, November 27th, 2009
U.S. President Herbert Hoover and film star Mary Pickford in 1931.

U.S. President Herbert Hoover and film star Mary Pickford in 1931.

Recently, I wrote about Emily Post’s thoughts on funeral flowers. But, she devoted a whole chapter to funerals in her 1939 book, Etiquette. On this go-round, you’ll learn how Ms. Post viewed mourning, how she dispelled the “sitting up” tradition, and how she viewed servants who would not help during a time of need.

First, it was required that the affected family have “women friends” who followed similar taste and fashion. They could be relied upon to poke through a closet to find appropriate black dresses for the female mourners in the house. That friend also would make a list of any other items, such as gloves, that “will have to be procured.” All dressmaking establishments at the time must have been very competitive, as Ms. Post stated that they provide precedence to mourning orders and “will execute a commission within twenty-four hours.”

Additionally, clothing stores at the time would send a selection of clothes to a house on approval (this is providing that the house was firmly established in the neighborhood). With that said, Ms. Post does state that lending mourning materials, such as veils and wraps, is appropriate so that clothing that needed to be purchased could be kept to a minimum.

As for men, she writes:

As men’s clothes are standardized, most men can go to a clothier and buy a ready-made black suit. Otherwise they borrow one from a friend or wear what they have with a black band put on the left sleeve.

The tradition of “sitting up” with the deceased was popular before the practice of using embalming and funeral homes. Ms. Post stated that – by 1939 – this practice no longer was necessary unless the deceased “be a prelate or personage whose lying-in-state is a public ceremony, or unless it is the particular wish of the relatives.” She also stated the following, which may have been some relief for families who were not wealthy:

Nor is the soulless body dressed in elaborate trappings of farewell grandeur. Everything is done to avoid unnecessary evidence of the change that has taken place. In case of a very small funeral the person who has passed away is sometimes left lying in bed in night clothes, or on a sofa in a wrapper, with flowers, but no set pieces, about the room, so that an invalid or other sensitive bereft one may say farewell without ever seeing the all too definite finality of a casket. In any event the last attentions are paid in accordance with the wish of those most nearly concerned.

The above explanation could answer the question previously asked about how to get a casket through the door of a home in the article, Notes on the Old-Fashioned Home Funeral. If no casket was required, then the door would not be an issue. Remember, also, that she wrote this book first just as the Great Depression hit and the last edition was rendered immediately before World War II. During that entire decade, even the wealthy watched their pennies. Death’s pomp took second place, perhaps, behind groceries for the living.

Yet, Ms. Post felt the need to talk about servants and their duties during mourning. Although she began this section kindly, with a note that “kindness of heart is latent in all of us, and servants, even if they have not been long with a family, rise to such an emergency as a funeral,” at the end of this section, she wrote:

Family and intimate friends occupy all available accommodations, but it is a rare household which does not give sympathy as generously below stars as above; and a servant who did not willingly and helpfully assume a just share of the temporary tax on energy, time and consideration would be thought very heartless by the others.

Although I have not read this entire chapter about funerals in full detail, I have glanced through it. Not once — at least not yet — have I seen Ms. Post write about how to conduct oneself during a funeral for a servant. That said, Etiquette offers details on how the end of life was observed almost seven decades ago in this country. It is a perspective that is both curious and amusing in some details, as most citizens today are far removed from that lifestyle. At the same time, her work shows how outward details may have provided a hint of denial about death itself.

To get a grip on what 1930 might have looked like in regards to fashion, visit the Fashion in 1931 page at Wikipedia.

A 1939 guide to Arranging and Recording Flowers

Sunday, November 22nd, 2009

funeral_flowers_churchI love old etiquette books, and I found one at a second-hand store last week. This is the prime Emily Post Etiquette, published first in 1927, with this latest edition from 1939. The bonus with this book is that Ms. Post devotes an entire chapter to funerals, so you may hear more about funeral etiquette from the early twentieth century over the upcoming weeks.

This particular entry regards flowers — specifically, the arranging and recording of flowers for a Protestant church funeral. You’ll soon discover that florists today take on many tasks assigned to friends in the past (pg 490):

An hour before the time for the service, if the family is Protestant, one or two woman friends got to the church to arrange the flowers which are placed about the chancel. If the flowers are many, these friends should, if possible, have the assistance of a florist, because the effective grouping and the fastening of heavy wreaths and sprays is likely to overtax the skill of novices, no matter how perfect their taste may be. Whoever takes charge of the flowers must carefully collect all the notes and cards. Also, they should always supply themselves with screw-point pencils, because the points of wood pencils break easily. On the outside of each envelope they write a description of the flowers that the card was sent with, as, for example:

“Large spray of Easter lilies and palm branches tied with white ribbon.”
“Laurel wreath with gardenias.”
“Long shear of pink roses and white lilies.”

Without such notations the family has no way of knowing anything about the flowers chosen by friends whom they especially care for. Moreover, these descriptions will identify the senders of the flowers when notes of thanks are sent.

The chancel, for those uninitiated in Protestant church architecture, is the area around the altar, often enclosed by a lattice or railing. Ms. Post uses this term to avoid stating that the flowers should be arranged around the casket (if this is a traditional burial), which also is placed in the chancel.

That aside, the advice about marking the flowers is a good idea, especially if you want to send thank-you notes to those who sent flowers. Unfortunately, Ms. Post had no entry that dealt with flowers that might be sent, despite instructions to send money to charity instead. I would think, given the heartfelt manner of the gift, that a thank-you note would be appropriate anyway.